Recently, many sources have discussed the issue of the “Lost Boys Generation.” The phrase “lost boys” can mean different things based on the political leanings and background of the source, but they all agree that we are failing our boys in some way. Some claim that boys are not being taught masculine skills and are instead being praised for being “over-emotional” or “soft.” Others say we are crippling our boys by not allowing them to express emotions in a healthy way. Some educators have claimed that our schools are too geared toward educational methods that allow girls to succeed and leave boys behind.
While the Boy Scouts of America is non-partisan, we are definitely committed to the well-being of American boys. We read two articles recently that addressed the issue of what is happening to this generation of boys and we are interested in hearing your opinion.
The first article, from Fox News, caught our eye because the author uses the BSA methods as an example of how to raise strong boys. At the same time, the rhetoric is unabashedly partisan and might not reflect the views and opinions of many associated with the BSA. The author blames “modern feminism” for killing “the gentleman.” He goes on to list six steps that can turn a boy into an honorable man. Many of the steps can be positive elements in a boys development, like guiding others and facing challenges.
You can read this article here: Fox News Article
An article from PBS approaches the issue from another angle. The author asserts that “it’s possible to help your boy discover his real identity although he [may be] surrounded by the rigid rules of boy life.” The article explores ways boys can connect with adult leaders and other boys in an open atmosphere. They suggest challenging the “tough guy” narrative at times: “When boys see men serving their communities in positive and different ways, it shows them that there many ways to be a productive man,” the article says. It goes on to explain that by exposing boys to a variety of male-figures, they have choices about who they can grow up to be, while still following role-models who hold positive ideals.
Read this article here: PBS Raising Boys Article
These are just two of countless opinion pieces and articles about the problems facing our boys and how we can deal with them. We would love to hear from you about this too! What are your ideas for building strong and honorable youth? Is there something we missed? Please share your thoughts below!